Lessons from the Kitchen Floor: my focus matters.

That Kitchen Floor.

I remember when it was normal for me to follow whatever thoughts came into my mind. I lived in a static state of fear - and honestly, so much had happened in my life that was threatening mentally, emotionally, and physically that it was hard to think positively and live above it.

I did my best to maintain a positive outlook and I kept praying. But there were days where I would lie on my face on the kitchen floor in tears. 

God's help would come when I would pray and especially when I would sing. Old hymns I'd learned as a child like "The Solid Rock" or "Great Is Thy Faithfulness" and "What A Friend We Have in Jesus." 

The words would slowly drip into my mind and as they saturated my thoughts and rolled off my lips, my focus would return to God and my heart would begin to feel His peace.

It was in that kitchen that I first became aware of choosing my thoughts and the difference it would make.  

  • In my perspective, I had more hope.
  • In my parenting, I gained greater patience and understanding.
  • In my confidence in God, I stood stronger.
  • In my ability to think clearly, I made better decisions.
  • In my mental and emotional health, I was just... better. More healed.


God wanted us to know this truth and how to make it work when He said through Paul...

"Don't take on the image of the world (around you) but let your minds be renewed in truth by changing the way you think (and what you focus on) so that you can know what is the perfect, pleasing will of God is" (Romans 12:2). 

"For the Word that God speaks is alive and full of power [making it active, operative, energizing, and effective]; it is sharper than a two-edged sword, penetrating to the dividing line of the soul and spirit...exposing and sifting and analyzing the very thoughts and purposes of the heart" (Hebrews 4:12 AMP). 

And even thousands of years before to Moses about the importance of the habit of focusing on Him...

"And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates," (Deuteronomy 6:5-9).


I read books like Change Your Words, Change Your Life by Joyce Meyer and The Power of Right Believing by Joseph Prince. I found that...

Focus on God is full of hope, healing, and standing. It rights us! 

God isn't be selfish. He is helping us to know we were created for abundance by focusing on Him. That's the relationship. 

That's the way we build and gain strength, courage, and confidence - God's Way!


What I learned in the kitchen.

=> You must think higher, spiritually, to climb.

=> You must choose your focus quickly when feeling fear.

=> You must be Intentional in your faith and state out loud what you believe.

=> You must see fear as an enemy and refuse to be its prisoner.

=> You must stand when you think you cannot for this develops strength.


Eleanor Roosevelt said, "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." 


Our thoughts and focus are very powerful. For better or for worse. 

Whatever we focus on grows larger. 


We don’t just LET things happen to us – no, you and I now know the power of choosing our own thoughts.

When something like Coronavirus comes along and brings with it like layoffs, no job, stressed relationships, and for some families, hungry children and lots of fear, we must learn to choose our response!


Situations like these are like a steam roller – Would you just lie down and take what comes or would you take evasive action?

Evasive action first begins in your thinking. You’d think, “I’m not letting that thing roll over me!”

We need to do the SAME THING in our thoughts and say about fear --- "I’m not letting fear roll over and control me!"


Our minds are powerful and our thoughts shape who we are and who we will become.

Deut. 30:19 – “Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!

Simply choosing sounds too easy; but what if it’s true?


Changing the way you think (to agree with God’s promises) changes your perspective which changes how you speak and act.

In fact...

“Change your mind” is the central theme of Jesus’ first sermon in Matthew 4.

The word for repent actually means, “change the way you think and go in a new direction.”


So what are we to do when we feel entangled by fear?

We are to cry out to God!

When we ask for His help, we GET IT.

2 Timothy 1:7 – God has not given us a spirit of fear, but power, love, and a sound mind.


To overcome fear, we must look it square in the face and tell it that we’re simply not going to focus there anymore. We are choosing to focus on God and His promises!

God told Joshua in chap 1, vs 9, “Only be strong and courageous for I am with you wherever you go!”


The Goal: To be a Believer that believes! 

Just because you and I may be Christians doesn't mean we won't struggle at times, but the more we train our minds to think in ways like God's Word instructs, the more stable, strong, courageous, and confident we will become! 


Want to join me on the kitchen floor?

Imagine you are with me on my kitchen floor. We are encouraging each other and we take hands helping each other up.

We stand and say together…

I am a believer who believes!

I am going to choose where my thoughts go!

I am going to refuse and rebuke fear!

I am going to focus my mind and heart on God!

I am going to stand on His promises and get to know them as my very own!


And then we add...

Father, please help me to renew my mind according to Your truth and to think higher and better! I have the mind of Christ and the Holy Spirit! 

And as we rise strong in spirit and turn to walk away, we smile and say...

Goodbye, kitchen floor.


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